Tuesday, March 30, 2010

The Buck Stops Here

"Honey I need $120 out of our discretionary fund."
"I need a new pair of boots for works."
"They reimburse you for those don't they?"
"Only $100 of it, but I always put it back into our account."
"That's right well if you need them you need them, just make sure you put it back in."

Some may wonder why I refer to it as "our" money and not "Her" money. While my wife is most certainly the boss, and has final say over how the money is spent, we both agree that my keeping the books is the best way for her to mange our marriage. What happens is that I make sure all bills are paid on time, this includes retirement savings, what's left is up to my wife to decide how it is spent. We go over all of the paper work together, she having already looked at the bank statements, to check on my activity.

Another reason I use "our" is that it fosters a since of ownership in the relationship. The same way employees refer to there store, or office when in reality its more the property of the shareholders, or the children of the founders. A since of ownership is important as it increases loyalty, if you don't believe that just ask any sports fan about their team.

Finally as a practical measure if something were to ever happen to my wife it may prove crucial that I have access to all of our funds. While many a submissive man may fantasize about complete financial domination this is horribly unpractical. What they may not understand is that if all assets are in their wife's name, and she were to pass away suddenly it could take months for probate to be worked out especially if she did not leave a will that stipulates her husband is to inherit her possessions. These problems can be compounded if there are children from previous marriage.

Sunday, March 28, 2010

Your Daughter ?!?

How does your wife train you? Really how does your wife try and help you to be the kind of man she wants/knows you can be? If your wife or dominant partner is like mine some part of training is the use of sex. For my part I have no problem with this. In fact I love that she has locked my sex away for her use, and that she has taken the time to understand and accept my submissive nature, more importantly for her own happiness she has embrace her own dominant side.
It seems like the longer that I read other peoples blogs about female led relationships the more they begin to stray into female supremacy. I know I have posted on this before an I will do my best to make this the last time for a good while. I was reading about a "heated discussion" should a father submit to his adult daughter. My immediate answer is no.
Above I stated that my wife and many like he use sex as part of husband training. A man is trained to associate sex with serving a powerful women specifically his wife or partner. Now I don't think that anyone is the female supremacy movement is promoting incest but the fact is that it becomes hard to disconnect once an association is made. One more reason that female supremacy just seems wrong.
Instead I would suggest that a female led marriage like any other should be kept private. Not out of shame but for the simple reason that it is nobody else business what goes on in your relationship. While it is nice to have friends who enjoy the same lifestyle as you do, your children are not your friends, and even with other couples who enjoy FLR, how much control does one wife allow another to have over their husband?
I know that in my own marriage we are friends with one other couple who enjoy a loving female authority. While I am expected to be a courteous host or guest with them by no means does my wife expect me to submit to the other women in anyway. I am expected to act the way my wife wants, respectful of her, and by extension polite to everyone we are social with.

Wednesday, March 24, 2010

Most Beautiful

Is it just me or are women at there most beautiful when they are creating life. I'm not a female supremacist but it just puts me in submissive awe and makes me want to worship the fertility of women.